Lie Down With Dogs, Wake Up With Fleas

Two weeks ago, I answered a jury summons to serve at the local courts. It was actually my second summons after the boss requested I postpone the first one I received a few months prior due to another colleague already out on jury duty. The boss had a good laugh when I told him that my first day of jury duty was going to start on my day off from work. To add insult to injury, the night before I worked a double shift, then had to report to the courthouse early the next morning. I got the last laugh though, when after 2 days of waiting in the jury pool, I was selected for a jury, which didn’t please the boss very much.

If you’ve never served as a juror on a trial before, I can tell you it’s nothing like what they show on Law & Order or any of those other legal dramas. Things don’t move that quickly at all. It’s very mundane with a lot of attention to details, with lots of sidebars by the lawyers and the judge giving us breaks. I knew what to expect since it was my second time serving as a juror, but I wasn’t necessarily looking forward to all the delays.

The case was a drug trial. Based on a warrant, police executed a search raid on an apartment. Inside the apartment they find “Troy” and 2 young children; a 8 year old boy and 6 year old girl. While searching the apartment, police find in one of the 5 bedrooms a vial of crack cocaine, drug paraphernalia, and 2 guns. A .380 caliber pistol and a 9mm assault rifle. The man inside who is the father of the 2 children is charged with multiple counts of drug possession with intent to distribute as well as multiple weapons charges, and two counts of endangerment of minors. Troy’s girlfriend, “Keisha” the mother of the children, and who’s apartment was the one raided was later also arrested and charged.

The prosecution argued that the two defendants, both in their 30s, lived together as a couple with their children and sold drugs out of the apartment. Testimony from the police officers involved was tedious, describing every detail involved with the raid. Dozens of items were introduced into evidence. Among them, the guns, drugs, paraphernalia, bullets and DNA testing results. Troy’s defense lawyer argued though he spent a significant amount of time there, that he didn’t live in the apartment. And he didn’t sleep in the bedroom where the drugs and weapons were found. Keisha’s lawyer argued that she had no knowledge of the drugs and guns being in the apartment. That she also did not sleep in that bedroom and that various family members stayed there at points in time who could’ve brought the drugs and guns into the apartment.

It took an entire day for both the prosecution and defense to present their closing arguments. Notably the defense attorney for Keisha said something that stuck with me. I’m paraphrasing but it was something to the effect of, “Don’t convict her for her choices in lifestyle or relationships.” But it was just those choices that played a role in our deliberations. Part of Keisha’s testimony was that her primary source of income was food stamps and SSI for her 2 children, whatever money Troy gave her, and she also earned money on the side working as a hairdresser out of her apartment. But she drove a late model mercedes, wore designer clothing and shoes, and despite having a huge apartment in which she paid a very low rent, kept little furniture in the apartment. Two of the bedrooms were kept empty and Keisha claimed that Troy would sleep on a mattress on the living room floor, which made no sense to me in an apartment with 5 bedrooms. Troy was a high school dropout who had served time for a prior felony conviction, and according to the prosecution, was arrested numerous times prior to the most recent charges. He was also unemployed, yet testified that a friend owed him $1500, but did not elaborate where he got the money to loan. Though he claimed to live with a cousin, the DA showed evidence that Troy received mail, including a new food stamp card at Keisha’s address.

The jury concluded during deliberations that Troy and Keisha did live together as a couple in Keisha’s apartment. That Troy sold drugs and kept the guns in the apartment, with Keisha’s knowledge of his activities. Based on that, both were found guilty of all charges. As the forewoman of the jury, it was my job to read the verdict, which was tedious. I had to say the word, “guilty” 18 times. One for each of the nine charges the defendants had. Maybe it was some irrational fear I had or just nervousness, but I avoided looking at the defendants while reading the verdict. A few of us briefly met with the defense attorneys for a Q&A session after the trial was over, they seemed incredulous that we came to the verdict that we did. One of the questions we had for the lawyers was the nature of the warrant. When Keisha’s lawyer commented it was for “selling drugs”, we were even more confident we made the right decision on the verdict. I was curious what kind of jail sentence they could receive, but didn’t have the nerve to ask.

“Lie down with dogs, get up with fleas”, “birds of a feather flock together”, “guilty by association”, “be careful of the company you keep”. All those anecdotes come to mind when I spent the next few days processing what took place over the 10 days I served. The judge told us it was not our job to be concerned about that, but It saddens me when I think of the two children, now ages 8 and 10, who will probably now grow up without both of their parents. Who will care for them? How will they maintain a relationship with mom and dad while they are incarcerated? What interventions will be made in their life to keep them from repeating the mistakes of their parents?

Ms Fix It

If you were a girl scout when you were a child years ago as I was, you’ll recognize this junior level badge right away.

 

Ms Fix-It badge

Well you can call me Ms. Fix It. Because sometimes you’re just better off going on and doing things yourself….

A few weeks ago, the lighting in my kitchen started to go dim. One of the bulbs went out so  I put in a work order for the super to replace the lighting. A couple days later I still see my work order posted with a comment noted that he didn’t have the bulbs on hand and would have to go out and purchase the lighting. 

Meanwhile I still have some remaining light in my kitchen as it was only about 1 or 2 of the bulbs that died. A week goes by, then another, and I’m wondering how the hell long does it take to go out and get bulbs. And then s**t hits the fan on Super Bowl weekend when the remaining bulbs also go out. And now I have a blackout in my kitchen. If you’re like a lot of New Yorkers who eat out most meals, that might not be a big deal, but as someone who enjoys cooking, this is distressing. 

So sometime during the football game that took place during the Beyonce concert, I make my way down to the front desk and put in a second work order emphasizing the fact that I now have NO light in my kitchen. And I think to myself it’d sure be nice to have a man around the house right about now to fix this. The security guard on duty suggests I call the managing company. My thoughts exactly, if I don’t hear from the super by the next day. 

My coworker friend tells me I need to grease his pockets, that’s how things get done in his in-laws building. Listen, tipping is one thing, but slipping dude some extra bucks to do work that he is already being paid to do from my monthly maintenance fees is not how I operate. I call the super’s cell the following tuesday and he gives me the blah blah blah about how he’s tried to call me a couple of times (never got a message) & I have to pay for the bulbs (knew that) and he’ll try to get it done today, if not tomorrow. I see him later that day and he promises to have it done tomorrow. 

Move forward to today, my day off. A major snowstorm is coming and I’m determined not to go into the weekend snowed in and my kitchen still in blackout conditions. A couple weeks ago I watched some employees changing the fluorescent light bulbs in our department and thought I can do that myself. I take down the shade from the lighting and find the same type of lightbulbs in my fixture. I managed to remove one of the bulbs, took a picture of the inscription on the bulb with my phone and made my way to Home Depot. 

So imagine what folks on the bus were thinking when they see a woman with 2 pairs of 4ft fluorescent bulbs like these….

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I leave a message on the super’s phone that he can come install them, since they’re bought and he no longer has the excuse that he has to go to the store. While at Home Depot I read a display sign outlining how to install and remove the bulbs and it looked easy enough for me to give it a shot. Out of sheer curiosity and seeing if I have the know how, (and because I was just damn tired of waiting and ready to take action) I set out to remove the rest of the bulbs, which took a little bit of work. But one by one I got them out.

Now installing the new bulbs was another matter. I’ve been screwing and unscrewing regular light bulbs since I was a kid, but these took a little bit of work, not quite as easy as it looked. I hesitated and started to just wait for the super to respond, but after playing with the old bulbs for practice, I got the first one in with a little ease. There must be some kinda trick to these lights I don’t know of, but I figure if I can get one in, I can do the other three. 

Took about a half hour and several breaks in between, but I finally got them all in. Being the first time installing kitchen lights, I’m quite proud of my work. 

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I even managed to crazy glue the crack in my light shade. Putting that back on though, I think I might need the super for that job. 

 

My Ultimate Hair Goal

I have never heard of this woman or her new “sprAngz” hair styling tool before, but after coming across her video on YouTube, I was just amazed and kept staring at all the hair she has. I’m about 1/3 of the way since taking down my locs 6 months ago, but in a few years I hope to have as much loose hair as she does right now. Also heck out her comments about people’s reaction to her natural hair as well. I can relate.

What kind of African are you?

One day about a month ago, I was running late ad hailed a cab to work. The African driver behind the wheel asked if I was from Ghana. I replied no, and he said I looked like I was from his country based on my facial features, and because I was “nice”.

Over the years I’ve been mistaken by Africans from several countries for looking like someone from their homeland. It’s one of the reasons, besides my own curiosity for ordering the ancestry DNA test which I talked about back a few months ago.

I ordered tests from Ancestry.com to trace both the maternal and paternal sides of the family. You give a saliva sample according to the instructions provided and return the test to them in the enclosed envelope. In about six weeks time they send you your results.

The results? With 99.7% accuracy, my maternal ancestry derives from the Yoruba and Hausa tribes in Nigeria. My father’s side is descended from the Unbuntu tribe in Angola, accuracy 100%.

As many African Americans are told, I expected to find ancestry somewhere in West Africa. Angola was a surprise though. While I was aware that colonization occurred there as well as all over the continent, I didn’t think I’d have any roots extending that far south. You could imagine how excited the family was to find out when I announced the results to them on Christmas.

I suppose maybe I should plan a visit one day.

Work In Progress: Every Way Wrap

Happy 2013 folks! Hope this new year is prosperous and productive for everyone!

Found this pattern in an old issue of Interweave Knits while thumbing through my knitting magazine collection. I initially started it with the British wool yarn that I bought at Rhinebeck a couple months ago. I soon discover something wasn’t quite right. The cable pattern design wasn’t showing up like the display picture. The pattern requires use of worsted yarn knitted at a size 9 needle to meet gague. I discover after googling the wool yarn I had bought online that it’s actually sport weight yarn.

Briefly I was bummed, as I loved the variegated color and how it was appearing knitted up thus far. But soon found another stash of wool that I was able to use; some Brown Sheep Wool I had bought from Rhinebeck the previous year and never got around to knitting with.

And then I run into another snafu. While at a recent knit-up gathering in Brooklyn, a friend who previously had knitted with the pattern before said she remembered there was some errata with the cable directions, something I was completely unaware of. After a bit of googling I realize there indeed was a published error, but managed to find a correction via someone’s post in a knit forum. I’m exhausted. At this point it’s now my third time casting on for this pattern. Fortunately I’m on vacation and had some time to spend figuring out the changes and finally made some significant progress.

I’m quite happy with the results thus far. The only issue I have now is that I’m probably short of yarn and I may need to track down at least one more skein. I should be finished hopefully by the end of the month. Tell me what you think.

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Rhinebeck 2012: The Results

Once again, we came, we shopped, we bought more than we probably should’ve, and we had a blast doing all of it. Of course I’m talking about the annual knitter’s pilgrimage that is Rhinebeck, or formally known as the Dutchess County Sheep and Wool Festival.

There are three reasons I do this: 1. It’s a great opportunity to spend a day out of the city without going too far and spending too much money. 2. I get to indulge in my hobby, which incorporates bargain shopping and 3. My (self) appointed task each year to encourage my friend Nikki to give into her temptations to impulse buy yarn.

I’m not one who enjoys getting up at the crack of dawn to catch a train, but that’s exactly what I did to make the subway trek to the Penn Station to meet Nikki. The journey, in this case a 2 hour ride on Amtrak along the Hudson river is as relaxing as the destination. There was evidence of some rainy weather the night before. One moment, there was mist and fog above the river:

and in the next moment, the sky was crystal clear:

The train ride reminds me of the annual car trips my family took to visit my dad’s relatives in North Carolina. The countryside was full of miles and miles of pine forests. How can you not help buy enjoy those views? Autumn is in full effect up in this area, with trees completely covered in red or yellow leaves. I’m born and raised in the city, but everyone needs a bit of country to spice up their brick and mortar life.

Like I said in my last post, I didn’t have any specific projects in mind to buy yarn for. I was just winging it, buying whatever yarn I liked. I was on the lookout for some fancy crochet hooks similar to the ones that I found on eBay a while back. While I did see some hooks, nothing came close to the beauty of these.

I didn’t keep receipts, but I believe I spent about the same as I did last year. Bought slightly more yarn this time. I passed up the opportunity to buy more “sexy needles” in favor of spending on some more fancier yarn.

This year’s stash:

Clockwise from top:

Blue Moon Fiber Arts BFL Sport 100% Blue Faced Leicester, Colorway: Bittersweet. I had to google Blue Faced Leicester to find out it’s wool imported from English sheep. It’s very smooth, doesn’t feel heavy at all despite the gauge calling for a size 8 needle. I didn’t buy enough skeins for the original pattern I have in mind but found a shawl substitute from one of my old issues of Vogue Knitting that should work perfect with this yarn. Can’t wait to knit this one up.

Bittersweet hand dyed DK weight yarn 40% Merino, 40% Baby Alpaca, 20% Silk. Color: Dark Heart I’m not really a big fan of alpaca because of it’s tendency to shed, but this yarn looked very tempting and the variegated purple color combination looked fabulous, plus the price was great. Spotted a couple of knitted clapotis scarves at the fair and thought this will work well. I bought all 5 skeins they had in stock that should be enough to knit the scarf as well as a matching hat.

Oasis Fiber Farm Mill: These yellow skeins were on sale. Not much info on them except that they’re a combo of 50% merino wool and 50% nylon. What I will do with these, I don’t know yet, I’m taking suggestions.

Stonehedge Fiber Mill Shepherd’s Wool, worsted weight in Turquoise A nice lightweight wool that I may make into a hat or scarf depending on the yardage required. Or maybe a couple pairs of gloves or gauntlets.

Angoraonline.com handspun, hand dyed, handpainted angora yarn. 80% merino, 20% nylon sock weight. Initially I had in mind making some gloves with this one, but since the yardage is so great, I may work these two skeins into some type of shawl or coverlet. I also like that the wool feels light and won’t weigh you down.

I’ll leave you with more photos of the picturesque scenery we were surrounded by during the day.


View of Hudson Valley north of Rhinecliff Station Way in the distance is the Kingston-Rhinebeck bridge.

2012 Rhinebeck bound

In two days, I will start my two week vacation. That time off will begin with me making the trek upstate once again to the picturesque town of  Rhinecliff, NY for their annual Dutchess County Sheep and Wool festival. Known colloquially among us yarn addicts as Rhinebeck. See my post from last year here.

Last year was my first trip to the festival, and unlike my knitting friends, I wasn’t as organized. I didn’t arrive there with a shopping list of yarn, patterns, notions, etc. Spent the day randomly shopping, mostly for bargains and discount yarn, which is pretty much what I do when I visit yarn shops. Most knitters will find a pattern for an item they want to make, then look for a suitable yarn. I tend to do the opposite. I find a yarn that inspires me, and I think of what item would work with it. Then find the pattern that works with the yarn. Right or wrong it’s worked for me so far.

This year has turned out to be the same. Once again, I don’t have a specific shopping list. Over the past several months I started to pick up crocheting again so my options for yarn work have expanded that much more. I will simply be open minded as I shop and see what moves me.

One thing I can think of I will have my eye out for are fancy crochet hooks. Last year I bought what Nicky from D’NALI coined my sexy needles. Since I’m starting to dabble in crocheting as well, I’m working on adding to my sexy hook collection. I started off with a set of 3 domo wood crochet hooks I bought from Ebay. They’re beautifully carved, smooth finished and are a real joy to knit with. Much more interesting than the standard metal hooks.

I’ll maybe if I have time do a search tomorrow for some patterns to knit or crochet. Or I may just go there and wing it.

 

Anne Eunson's artistry

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What's this? A fence?

A fence and a flowerbed?

Take a closer look . . . for this is no ordinary fence. . .

. . .this is a knitted fence . . .

. . . a Shetland lace fence, no less.

This beautiful and imaginative creation is the work of Anne Eunson of Hamnavoe, Burra. Anne loves lace knitting, and how better to express that affection than by completely wrapping one's garden up in Shetland lace?

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Found a link to this post via twitter and I thought it was so spectacular I just had to reblog. This just blew me away. I can't imagine knitting with curtain rods, but the artistry, and what I'm sure was a lot of blood sweat and tears put in knitting an entire fence. The flower beds and shrubs around the fence complement it so well. A fine excuse to go out and buy a house. ;-)

Words With Friends Racist?

I’m a big fan of Words With Friends, or any scrabble type of game. Of course I was excited as hell when I was able to make out a word using all 7 of the letters I had to play.

So I make my play, ready to get my 20 or so points score plus the extra 35 points for using all 7 letters in one play…

And I get this message….

Foul! Flag on the play! Excuse me, Words With Friends?!?!  We have a problem……How is an arguably racist term like “honkies” acceptable, but the word “haitian” is not? Call me a sore loser, but the fact that Brendon’s Mom 22 scored 99 points for that word doesn’t help things either. I eventually lost that match, but I still call foul.

Finding My Roots

“Where are your people from?

Maybe Mississippi or an island

Apparently your skin has been kissed by the sun

You make me want a Hershey’s kiss, your licorice”

~ India.Arie, “Brown Skin”

After months of watching shows like “Who Do You Think You Are” and “Finding Your Roots” where Dr. Henry Louis Gates traces the ancestral backgrounds of celebrities, I’ve been curious about my ancestry but never really motivated to to an active search. In high school, my history teacher assigned us a project to trace our ancestry and I was only able to go as far back as my great-grandparents on my mom’s side. My father’s side I was able to go back another generation or two, but not much further. I can’t imagine how Alex Haley was able to trace his family all the way back to Africa all those years ago. Especially without the DNA technology we have now. I would’ve had no idea where to start or even how to go about it.

The impetus came when a friend posted on facebook that africanancestry.com was having a sale on the ancestry kits. A $100 savings off the regular cost was enough motivation to get me started. Tracing my maternal side was no big deal. To trace my paternal ancestry, there was a little bit of a problem. Because the “patrilineal” kit uses DNA that is passed from father to son only, it requires a male descendant to take the exam. Since my father is deceased and I don’t have any brothers, I reached out to one of my male cousins who agreed to do the DNA test for me.

I ordered both kits and about a week later received 2 envelopes that look like this:

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Inside each kit was a brochure on the testing process, a consent form to submit the DNA sample, 3 cotton swabs, a storage envelope for the samples and a return envelope to mail the samples back. The instructions were straightforward. Simply swab each side of your cheeks with 3 the cotton swabs then place in the accompanying envelope and mail your samples back. Then in about six weeks you’ll be sent a certificate with your DNA results.

I used to sometimes envy folks who could hyphenate their ethnicities. Yes, there is “African-American” but Africa is a continent, and that’s not the same as knowing the actual country of origin. I’m named after an african country and over the years have been asked thousands of times if I’m from that nation. I’ve had numerous African women braiders from various countries have told me I look like their people. I really have no idea from what country or what tribe I’ll end up from. I’m just glad I’ll be able to finally have that question answered.

India.Arie may not have had that in mind when she wrote her lyrics, but she now knows where’s she from.

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